The Art of Remembering Who You Already Are

We live in a culture obsessed with becoming. Becoming more successful. Becoming more healed. Becoming whole, happy, complete.

It sounds noble, but it keeps us chasing. Always one step behind. Always waiting for the day we finally arrive. This can look like marriage, house and kids for some, or healing, awakening and enlightenment for others.

But here’s the truth: there’s nothing to become.

When we live life trying to become, we reinforce the idea that something is missing. We build our identity around a future version of ourself that finally “gets it right” or “has it all”.

But that future version never arrives, or, by the time it does, we have moved the goalposts again, thinking we need two houses, more kids or a larger bank balance. Becoming is a moving finish line, we never catch it.

The real work isn’t about chasing. Its about remembering.

Remembering that beneath the noise, the conditioning, and the pressure to be more, we are already enough. Already whole. Already complete.

Lets be clear: this isn’t about renouncing all worldly desires or pretending we don’t want success, love or growth. Those things matter. The difference is we’re no longer chasing them from a sense of lack. We pursue them from a place of strength, from remembering that nothing is missing in the first place. And here’s the paradox: the more we remember, the easier it becomes to achieve those desires. Because we’re not gripping, not forcing, but trusting and allowing.

Ironically, when we let go of trying to prove ourself, the world tends to open up.